Tuesday, 30 October 2012
unmet needs
Friday, 9 December 2011
Was i ever loved by you ?
Now I feel like a fool, so confused,
and my heart's bruised.
"Was i ever loved by you ?"
Keeping busy everyday. I know, I will be fine.
Takes a while to regain. what is lost inside and I hope that in time,
you will be out of my mind and I'll be over you.
Out of reach, so far....
and my heart's bruised.
"Was i ever loved by you ?"
Keeping busy everyday. I know, I will be fine.
Takes a while to regain. what is lost inside and I hope that in time,
you will be out of my mind and I'll be over you.
Out of reach, so far....
I had a dream
Everything become so clear for me. all around looks so beautiful.
an old man came to me and smiled at me. A really nice smile.
He talked a lots. I enjoyed the conversation.
until he asked me a question that i could not answer.
"how old when u die ?"
........................................................
I dont know if i die already.
.... then my eyes open, wake up with smile.
I saw an angel in my dream.
an old man came to me and smiled at me. A really nice smile.
He talked a lots. I enjoyed the conversation.
until he asked me a question that i could not answer.
"how old when u die ?"
........................................................
I dont know if i die already.
.... then my eyes open, wake up with smile.
I saw an angel in my dream.
Wednesday, 16 November 2011
Signs you're in love
1. You chuck out your old relationship souvenirs
For years, you hoarded ticket stubs from concerts and days out with your ex. Then you fall in love, and suddenly all these souvenirs are just tat that’s cluttering up your space.
So, if nothing else, falling in love makes you tidier.
2. Your ex announces their engagement, and you don’t care
What’s more, you fail to understand what you ever saw in them. The idea of sleeping with them… eww!
3. You’re no longer shy around your former crush
You used to be a quivering wreck when your office’s payroll assistant entered the room. These days, you barely notice them.
When you’re in love, your partner becomes infinitely more attractive than any other person on the planet. Yes, even Cheryl Cole.
4. You’re more adventurous in bed
When you’re in lust, a quick shag usually does the trick. But when you’re in love, you want to explore what really turns you both on – including things you’ve been too shy to try before.
5. You aren’t put off by physical imperfections
Lust is far more fragile than love. Here’s an example. If your lust-object arrives for a date with a big green crusty lump sticking out of their nose, your attraction will disappear in an instant.
But if you’re falling in love, you won’t be put off. You’ll feel protective. You’ll rub your nose and hope that they mirror you… and hey presto, problem solved. Ain’t love grand?
6. You tell them your plans – big and small
Whether it’s babbling about your world-travel dreams or asking them to help make the shopping list, you include your lover in your plans because they’re part of your life.
7. You wonder where “we” should go on holiday
Even if it means compromising your idea of the perfect holiday or putting up with their mum’s brussels sprouts.
8. You’re thrilled by a joint invite to a family wedding
Partly because you’re happy that family and friends treat you two as a unit. And partly because you want your wingman beside you when the boredom sets in at 10pm in the church hall.
9. You show them off
When you’re falling for someone, you want to include them in your social life and show them off to your friends. However…
10. You’re happy doing nothing together
Ultimately it’s not about being a couple on a social stage, but just about being two people together. Just going for a walk together sounds like the perfect afternoon.
11. You join their photography class
You want to know what make your lover tick – and you want them to see that you’re showing an interest.
12. You ring them to moan about work
When they’re the first person you want to talk to about what a class-A berk the boss is today, it’s because you think they’re a keeper. (Your lover, not the boss.)
13. You take their kids out for lunch
If your other half has children from a previous partner, your relationship with the kids is a barometer of your future as a couple. And if you’re in love, you’ll try your hardest to get along with them.
Try not to let it stress you out. If you and the kids can be relaxed in each other’s company, you’re onto a long-term winner.
14. You aren’t afraid to argue
Couples don’t agree all the time. If you’re in lust, you don’t care about standing up for yourself – it’s more trouble than it’s worth.
But when you’re in love, you want to put your point across. Speaking up shows that you’re secure enough to question what your lover says or does.
However…
15. You feel terrible when you argue
You wouldn’t be half as upset about a row with anyone else. Here’s why…
16. You care more about their happiness than your own
You feel bad when your other half isn’t happy, so arguments are a double whammy of emotional trauma.
On the bright side, it shows that you’re really in love. You’re no longer looking after number one all the time. Instead, you want your partner to be OK.
17. You show them where you grew up
It may seem an odd choice of weekend adventure, but love means wanting to show them where you’re from. “That’s my old school, that’s where I had my paper round, that’s where I puked up my dad’s home-brew…”
18. You don’t mind saving if you're usually a spend-thrift
Our money habits are deeply entrenched, but love motivates you to make an exception.
For example, if you’ve spent your adult life being unwilling to save up for anything dearer than a haircut, love could suddenly make you want to save a deposit on a flat.
Likewise…
19. You don’t mind splashing out if you're usually frugal
If you’re suddenly willing to splash out on a luxury holiday together, it shows how important they are to you.
But it’s not about changing the real you. If you’re usually more comfortable being a saver, love won’t change that. It just means you’re less rigid about it. Which brings us to…
20. You risk being yourself
Of all the love-signs on this list, this is the big cheese.
When you’re infatuated or in lust with someone, you edit yourself to fit what you think they want. You might dress to suit them, or hide the fact that you don’t have much in common with their friends.
But when you’re in love with someone, you want your other half to know and like the person you really are.
It’s a risk, of course. Certain incompatibilities may come to the fore. But you know that you can’t be happy for long if you’re faking it.
This isn’t an excuse to be stubborn or tactless. “Being yourself” does not mean sticking rigidly to habits, or telling your lover that their CD collection is crap. A bit of flexibility works wonders.
For years, you hoarded ticket stubs from concerts and days out with your ex. Then you fall in love, and suddenly all these souvenirs are just tat that’s cluttering up your space.
So, if nothing else, falling in love makes you tidier.
2. Your ex announces their engagement, and you don’t care
What’s more, you fail to understand what you ever saw in them. The idea of sleeping with them… eww!
3. You’re no longer shy around your former crush
You used to be a quivering wreck when your office’s payroll assistant entered the room. These days, you barely notice them.
When you’re in love, your partner becomes infinitely more attractive than any other person on the planet. Yes, even Cheryl Cole.
4. You’re more adventurous in bed
When you’re in lust, a quick shag usually does the trick. But when you’re in love, you want to explore what really turns you both on – including things you’ve been too shy to try before.
5. You aren’t put off by physical imperfections
Lust is far more fragile than love. Here’s an example. If your lust-object arrives for a date with a big green crusty lump sticking out of their nose, your attraction will disappear in an instant.
But if you’re falling in love, you won’t be put off. You’ll feel protective. You’ll rub your nose and hope that they mirror you… and hey presto, problem solved. Ain’t love grand?
6. You tell them your plans – big and small
Whether it’s babbling about your world-travel dreams or asking them to help make the shopping list, you include your lover in your plans because they’re part of your life.
7. You wonder where “we” should go on holiday
Even if it means compromising your idea of the perfect holiday or putting up with their mum’s brussels sprouts.
8. You’re thrilled by a joint invite to a family wedding
Partly because you’re happy that family and friends treat you two as a unit. And partly because you want your wingman beside you when the boredom sets in at 10pm in the church hall.
9. You show them off
When you’re falling for someone, you want to include them in your social life and show them off to your friends. However…
10. You’re happy doing nothing together
Ultimately it’s not about being a couple on a social stage, but just about being two people together. Just going for a walk together sounds like the perfect afternoon.
11. You join their photography class
You want to know what make your lover tick – and you want them to see that you’re showing an interest.
12. You ring them to moan about work
When they’re the first person you want to talk to about what a class-A berk the boss is today, it’s because you think they’re a keeper. (Your lover, not the boss.)
13. You take their kids out for lunch
If your other half has children from a previous partner, your relationship with the kids is a barometer of your future as a couple. And if you’re in love, you’ll try your hardest to get along with them.
Try not to let it stress you out. If you and the kids can be relaxed in each other’s company, you’re onto a long-term winner.
14. You aren’t afraid to argue
Couples don’t agree all the time. If you’re in lust, you don’t care about standing up for yourself – it’s more trouble than it’s worth.
But when you’re in love, you want to put your point across. Speaking up shows that you’re secure enough to question what your lover says or does.
However…
15. You feel terrible when you argue
You wouldn’t be half as upset about a row with anyone else. Here’s why…
16. You care more about their happiness than your own
You feel bad when your other half isn’t happy, so arguments are a double whammy of emotional trauma.
On the bright side, it shows that you’re really in love. You’re no longer looking after number one all the time. Instead, you want your partner to be OK.
17. You show them where you grew up
It may seem an odd choice of weekend adventure, but love means wanting to show them where you’re from. “That’s my old school, that’s where I had my paper round, that’s where I puked up my dad’s home-brew…”
18. You don’t mind saving if you're usually a spend-thrift
Our money habits are deeply entrenched, but love motivates you to make an exception.
For example, if you’ve spent your adult life being unwilling to save up for anything dearer than a haircut, love could suddenly make you want to save a deposit on a flat.
Likewise…
19. You don’t mind splashing out if you're usually frugal
If you’re suddenly willing to splash out on a luxury holiday together, it shows how important they are to you.
But it’s not about changing the real you. If you’re usually more comfortable being a saver, love won’t change that. It just means you’re less rigid about it. Which brings us to…
20. You risk being yourself
Of all the love-signs on this list, this is the big cheese.
When you’re infatuated or in lust with someone, you edit yourself to fit what you think they want. You might dress to suit them, or hide the fact that you don’t have much in common with their friends.
But when you’re in love with someone, you want your other half to know and like the person you really are.
It’s a risk, of course. Certain incompatibilities may come to the fore. But you know that you can’t be happy for long if you’re faking it.
This isn’t an excuse to be stubborn or tactless. “Being yourself” does not mean sticking rigidly to habits, or telling your lover that their CD collection is crap. A bit of flexibility works wonders.
5 Habits that Hurt Your Relationship
1. Over-prioritising
Don’t get me wrong – your relationship is very important. But so are you. And so is the life you’d so carefully built up before you began your relationship. Don’t be tempted to start putting yourself and your stuff – your goals, interests and friends – in second place when you’re in a relationship, because it won’t get the results you long for.
When we fall in love with somebody new, it’s easy to make them the focus of your world. It feels fun to do that! But over time, if you don’t maintain your own life too, your relationship will feel like it has become your life. You’ll panic at the thought of it finishing because you have nothing else to do, making you more likely to put up with sub-standard treatment. By focussing on your love life, you’ll find other areas of your world start to look neglected, making you spend MORE time focussing on love instead, as problems elsewhere become unbearable… Here’s some relationship advice: Get the balance right. The easiest way sometimes to work on your relationship is to work on other things instead! Keep the interests, goals and friends you had at the beginning of the relationship. Keep them in good condition; tend to them. This way, you’ll have more energy, confidence and enthusiasm when you’re with your partner, and your full, well-rounded life will keep them attracted to you.
2. If Only…
If only he’d buy me flowers every week. If only she’d watch sport with me. If only he earned more money. If only she could lose 10lbs… “If Only”s will damage your relationship very quickly. You might think you’re stealthily having these thoughts but they’ll be visible to your other half through your actions. Yes, they will. You’ll pout when he comes home without flowers, or you’ll fidget resentfully through the movie as you long to watch the big match on the other side. Strangely, “If Only”s are usually the sign you’re in a good relationship! Without real, concrete problems to focus on, you have time to day-dream about hypothetical finishing-touches. My relationship advice? Stop. Instead of thinking about what your partner doesn’t have, think about what they do. Write a list of the top 20 things you adore about your partner and see how that immediately pushes the “If Only”s out of the picture.
3. Disloyalty
You and your partner are a team. One of the easiest ways to damage your relationship is to be disloyal to your partner. So don’t spill all their secrets to your friends, don’t moan endlessly about them to anyone who’ll listen, don’t lie to them (even if it’s easier) and don’t go against their wishes on matters that are important to them – work to find a compromise.
The reason this is important is that the strongest, soundest relationships create their own feeling of “It’s you and me against the world!” But as soon as you destroy that, it’s gone. Some relationship advice about loyalty - see your partner’s best side, be the voice that boosts them up instead of putting them down. If they are someone you can’t genuinely respect or admire, you shouldn’t be with them.
4. Lack of self-care
It’s important to maintain your appearance when you’re in a relationship – not only will it keep your partner fancying you, it will keep your self-confidence high. You’ll keep your sassy, spicy edge which is one of the most successful ingredients in good long-term affairs. But don’t let your health, including mental health, go neglected. When it comes to appearance, the best relationship advice is simply to look after yourself: get enough sleep, eat healthily, exercise. If your partner has an unhealthy lifestyle, try not to copy it for the sake of “going along to get along”. If they eat unhealthy food, don’t give in to their pizza suggestions every time, introduce them to your favourite healthy meals instead or order your own light alternatives. In the first flush of love you might go without rest, but don’t skip sleep long-term, it’ll make you moody and more likely to over-react to problems that arise. Make your health a priority.
5. Competitiveness
This is a very common habit amongst unhappy couples. They compete for everything – who’s the most successful, who’s doing the most housework, who buys the best presents, even who’s the most ill. It’s incredibly unsupportive and is one of the fastest ways to alienate a partner as they’ll soon turn to other people to receive much-needed appreciation and praise. Competition arises when one – or both – partners feels insecure. Disliking themselves, they feel threatened when they perceive their partner to be somehow “better” than them, so they look to redress the balance, either by boasting about their own achievements, or by belittling their partner’s. It can also be sparked by a major life event (buying a home, having a baby, marriage or promotion) that shakes up a couple’s life significantly. My relationship advice here is, if you’re the one feeling competitive, work on improving your self-confidence. The tips in this article will help, so focus on your goals, friends, appearance and health until your partner’s success no longer threatens you. If your partner is the one who always seems keen to out-do you, give them attention and praise and encourage them to build a fulfilling life outside your relationship. Then you should both be able to become one another’s cheerleaders again, instead of feeling you’re on opposing teams.
Don’t get me wrong – your relationship is very important. But so are you. And so is the life you’d so carefully built up before you began your relationship. Don’t be tempted to start putting yourself and your stuff – your goals, interests and friends – in second place when you’re in a relationship, because it won’t get the results you long for.
When we fall in love with somebody new, it’s easy to make them the focus of your world. It feels fun to do that! But over time, if you don’t maintain your own life too, your relationship will feel like it has become your life. You’ll panic at the thought of it finishing because you have nothing else to do, making you more likely to put up with sub-standard treatment. By focussing on your love life, you’ll find other areas of your world start to look neglected, making you spend MORE time focussing on love instead, as problems elsewhere become unbearable… Here’s some relationship advice: Get the balance right. The easiest way sometimes to work on your relationship is to work on other things instead! Keep the interests, goals and friends you had at the beginning of the relationship. Keep them in good condition; tend to them. This way, you’ll have more energy, confidence and enthusiasm when you’re with your partner, and your full, well-rounded life will keep them attracted to you.
2. If Only…
If only he’d buy me flowers every week. If only she’d watch sport with me. If only he earned more money. If only she could lose 10lbs… “If Only”s will damage your relationship very quickly. You might think you’re stealthily having these thoughts but they’ll be visible to your other half through your actions. Yes, they will. You’ll pout when he comes home without flowers, or you’ll fidget resentfully through the movie as you long to watch the big match on the other side. Strangely, “If Only”s are usually the sign you’re in a good relationship! Without real, concrete problems to focus on, you have time to day-dream about hypothetical finishing-touches. My relationship advice? Stop. Instead of thinking about what your partner doesn’t have, think about what they do. Write a list of the top 20 things you adore about your partner and see how that immediately pushes the “If Only”s out of the picture.
3. Disloyalty
You and your partner are a team. One of the easiest ways to damage your relationship is to be disloyal to your partner. So don’t spill all their secrets to your friends, don’t moan endlessly about them to anyone who’ll listen, don’t lie to them (even if it’s easier) and don’t go against their wishes on matters that are important to them – work to find a compromise.
The reason this is important is that the strongest, soundest relationships create their own feeling of “It’s you and me against the world!” But as soon as you destroy that, it’s gone. Some relationship advice about loyalty - see your partner’s best side, be the voice that boosts them up instead of putting them down. If they are someone you can’t genuinely respect or admire, you shouldn’t be with them.
4. Lack of self-care
It’s important to maintain your appearance when you’re in a relationship – not only will it keep your partner fancying you, it will keep your self-confidence high. You’ll keep your sassy, spicy edge which is one of the most successful ingredients in good long-term affairs. But don’t let your health, including mental health, go neglected. When it comes to appearance, the best relationship advice is simply to look after yourself: get enough sleep, eat healthily, exercise. If your partner has an unhealthy lifestyle, try not to copy it for the sake of “going along to get along”. If they eat unhealthy food, don’t give in to their pizza suggestions every time, introduce them to your favourite healthy meals instead or order your own light alternatives. In the first flush of love you might go without rest, but don’t skip sleep long-term, it’ll make you moody and more likely to over-react to problems that arise. Make your health a priority.
5. Competitiveness
This is a very common habit amongst unhappy couples. They compete for everything – who’s the most successful, who’s doing the most housework, who buys the best presents, even who’s the most ill. It’s incredibly unsupportive and is one of the fastest ways to alienate a partner as they’ll soon turn to other people to receive much-needed appreciation and praise. Competition arises when one – or both – partners feels insecure. Disliking themselves, they feel threatened when they perceive their partner to be somehow “better” than them, so they look to redress the balance, either by boasting about their own achievements, or by belittling their partner’s. It can also be sparked by a major life event (buying a home, having a baby, marriage or promotion) that shakes up a couple’s life significantly. My relationship advice here is, if you’re the one feeling competitive, work on improving your self-confidence. The tips in this article will help, so focus on your goals, friends, appearance and health until your partner’s success no longer threatens you. If your partner is the one who always seems keen to out-do you, give them attention and praise and encourage them to build a fulfilling life outside your relationship. Then you should both be able to become one another’s cheerleaders again, instead of feeling you’re on opposing teams.
Thursday, 27 October 2011
worrying
Mengkhawatirkan sesuatu yang sebenarnya belum tentu akan terjadi. itu yang sering dilakukan dan dipikirkan banyak orang.
bagaimana dengan pencegahan yang berlebihan? apakah hal tersebut dapat merugikan orang lain? coba pikirkan....
sebuah pemikiran yang seharusnya logic tapi secara tidak sadar bercampur dengan perasaan menjadikan sebuah pemikiran yang salah.
lalu bisa jadi mengkhawatirkan sesuatu yang sudah pasti terjadi? apa itu suatu keanehan?
jikalau Anda berbohong tentang sesuatu hal secara terus menerus, makan kemungkinana kebohongan Anda terbongkar akan semakin besar. lalu untuk apa mengkhawatirkan hal tersebut? seharusnya sudah dilakukan persiapan untuk menghadapi itu semua.
lalu bagaimana jika Anda menyembunyikan sesuatu dan takut diketahui orang lain? seperti pacar gelap atau uang....
apa motif Anda sebenarnya? mencari kebahagiaan semu? Apa Anda mampu mencintai seseorang dengan tulus.
lalu apa kekhawatiran itu menular. tentu iya.
lalu adakah hubungannya kekhawatiran dengan rasa tidak percaya diri? coba pikirkan dan rasakan. pasti ada !
lalu jika kekhawatiran secara global... apa bisa di sebut normal? khawatir dunia kiamat, misalkan??
Jika kamu menemukan orang yang mempunyai rasa kekhawatiran berlebih, rangkullah dia, cintai dia dan dukung dia.
hanya rasa nyaman yang bisa merubah semua itu.
bagaimana dengan pencegahan yang berlebihan? apakah hal tersebut dapat merugikan orang lain? coba pikirkan....
sebuah pemikiran yang seharusnya logic tapi secara tidak sadar bercampur dengan perasaan menjadikan sebuah pemikiran yang salah.
lalu bisa jadi mengkhawatirkan sesuatu yang sudah pasti terjadi? apa itu suatu keanehan?
jikalau Anda berbohong tentang sesuatu hal secara terus menerus, makan kemungkinana kebohongan Anda terbongkar akan semakin besar. lalu untuk apa mengkhawatirkan hal tersebut? seharusnya sudah dilakukan persiapan untuk menghadapi itu semua.
lalu bagaimana jika Anda menyembunyikan sesuatu dan takut diketahui orang lain? seperti pacar gelap atau uang....
apa motif Anda sebenarnya? mencari kebahagiaan semu? Apa Anda mampu mencintai seseorang dengan tulus.
lalu apa kekhawatiran itu menular. tentu iya.
lalu adakah hubungannya kekhawatiran dengan rasa tidak percaya diri? coba pikirkan dan rasakan. pasti ada !
lalu jika kekhawatiran secara global... apa bisa di sebut normal? khawatir dunia kiamat, misalkan??
Jika kamu menemukan orang yang mempunyai rasa kekhawatiran berlebih, rangkullah dia, cintai dia dan dukung dia.
hanya rasa nyaman yang bisa merubah semua itu.
Sunday, 15 May 2011
F.R.I.E.N.D
We all want to have true friends, but the quality of our friends depend on us. If you want to have true friends, you should be a true friend yourself. By being a true friend, people will love to be around you and many of them will eventually become your true friends.
This is an essential first step if you are to be a true friend. If you don’t even accept yourself, how can you accept others? You may have made mistakes in the past that you can’t forget. But forgive yourself for them. You perhaps don’t have the traits you want in life.
After you befriend yourself, you will be in a good position to accept others. Other people may do you wrong or have some bad habits you don’t like. But you are not perfect yourself so there is no reason for you not to accept them.
Sometimes we are too busy to provide time for relationships, even for important people in our life. That most likely happens because we put relationships too low in our priority list. If we regard relationships as high priority, time won’t be a problem. We will make time for relationships.
The art of listening is one of the most difficult arts to master. I experience it myself. Sometimes you talk with a friend but don’t carefully listen to what he says. Sometimes you are introduced to a new person but don’t carefully listen to her name. A true friend doesn’t do that. A true friend is a good listener.
A true friend provides value to others. She wants people who meets her to be enriched in their life. If you want to do that, you should live a lifestyle of value. This way you amass value in your life you can then distribute to others.
Everyone looks at life through his own lens. Often we expect others to see life through the same lens as ours, but that will create a lot of problems. A true friend is someone who is willing to look through other people’s lenses first. He tries to understand why they think and act that way.
If you want to be interesting you should first be interested. Be curious. Cultivate interest about many things. If you do that, you can genuinely be enthusiastic when people talk to you about something. People will feel appreciated and love to be around you.
A true friend doesn’t wait until someone asks his help. Instead, he takes the initiative to help others. This, of course, is easier said than done. To do this, you should be on the lookout for needs. Be sensitive. Often you can find others’ needs through what they implicitly say. You may also see it through their body language. When you sense a need, think about how you can help them and take the initiative to help.
If you treat others as good and trustworthy people, they will also treat you likewise. Believe in your heart that people are naturally good, even when they seem to be the opposite. People will feel how you believe in them and they will be touched by your sincerity.
A true friend is not afraid of saying the truth, even if it’s not convenient to the ones who hear it. A true friend cares too much about the person’s wellness that he can’t afford to let him live wrongly. Always have others’ best interest in your heart and be honest to them.
A true friend knows the right time to praise, the right time to listen, and the right time to rebuke. She knows when to come and when to stay away. A true friend masters the art of timing.
Integrity is the foundation of true friendship. Be sure that you do what you say. You can only build true friendship if you are true to yourself and others.
People need appreciation. They need to know that you appreciate them. Often we are quick to criticize but slow to commend. Let’s make it the opposite. Sincerely commend them when they do something right. Even better, commend them publicly.
A true friend wants to see the people around them live up to their maximum potential. You can do this by helping your friends recognize and develop their personal strengths.
This is an essential first step if you are to be a true friend. If you don’t even accept yourself, how can you accept others? You may have made mistakes in the past that you can’t forget. But forgive yourself for them. You perhaps don’t have the traits you want in life.
After you befriend yourself, you will be in a good position to accept others. Other people may do you wrong or have some bad habits you don’t like. But you are not perfect yourself so there is no reason for you not to accept them.
Sometimes we are too busy to provide time for relationships, even for important people in our life. That most likely happens because we put relationships too low in our priority list. If we regard relationships as high priority, time won’t be a problem. We will make time for relationships.
The art of listening is one of the most difficult arts to master. I experience it myself. Sometimes you talk with a friend but don’t carefully listen to what he says. Sometimes you are introduced to a new person but don’t carefully listen to her name. A true friend doesn’t do that. A true friend is a good listener.
A true friend provides value to others. She wants people who meets her to be enriched in their life. If you want to do that, you should live a lifestyle of value. This way you amass value in your life you can then distribute to others.
Everyone looks at life through his own lens. Often we expect others to see life through the same lens as ours, but that will create a lot of problems. A true friend is someone who is willing to look through other people’s lenses first. He tries to understand why they think and act that way.
If you want to be interesting you should first be interested. Be curious. Cultivate interest about many things. If you do that, you can genuinely be enthusiastic when people talk to you about something. People will feel appreciated and love to be around you.
A true friend doesn’t wait until someone asks his help. Instead, he takes the initiative to help others. This, of course, is easier said than done. To do this, you should be on the lookout for needs. Be sensitive. Often you can find others’ needs through what they implicitly say. You may also see it through their body language. When you sense a need, think about how you can help them and take the initiative to help.
If you treat others as good and trustworthy people, they will also treat you likewise. Believe in your heart that people are naturally good, even when they seem to be the opposite. People will feel how you believe in them and they will be touched by your sincerity.
A true friend is not afraid of saying the truth, even if it’s not convenient to the ones who hear it. A true friend cares too much about the person’s wellness that he can’t afford to let him live wrongly. Always have others’ best interest in your heart and be honest to them.
A true friend knows the right time to praise, the right time to listen, and the right time to rebuke. She knows when to come and when to stay away. A true friend masters the art of timing.
Integrity is the foundation of true friendship. Be sure that you do what you say. You can only build true friendship if you are true to yourself and others.
People need appreciation. They need to know that you appreciate them. Often we are quick to criticize but slow to commend. Let’s make it the opposite. Sincerely commend them when they do something right. Even better, commend them publicly.
A true friend wants to see the people around them live up to their maximum potential. You can do this by helping your friends recognize and develop their personal strengths.
Wednesday, 29 December 2010
Kejujuran
Hari ini, sesuatu telah 'menampar' muka saya. Kejujuran, sebuah kata yg selalu saya junjung tinggi dan menjadi prinsip dalam hidup saya. Topeng apa yg sedang saya pakai? saya sendiri tidak jelas melihatnya dicermin dan saya mulai merasa takut pada diri saya sendiri. Apa saya termasuk org yg sakit jiwa ?
Bersusah payah saya membangun hidup dari kejujuran. saya yakin hidup saya akan baik2 saja jika saya menjalaninya dengan baik dan jujur. Mengajak org lain untuk jujur, mencoba tidak menyakiti org lain dengan kebohongan. Tapi yg terparah adalah Saya justru tidak jujur terhadap diri sendiri.
Ini pesan untuk yg membaca, coba renungkan dan belajar dari kesalahan saya.
Saya mencintai pria A tapi menikah dengan pria B, krn Pengabdian. Buat saya cinta itu sangat pribadi dan simple. Cinta itu bisa tumbuh dengan siapa saja, cinta itu butuh proses. apa benar begitu ? yg aku tau adalah Cinta itu mengikat 2 org dalam 1 perasaan. rumit ternyata...
lalu bagaimana dengan 'Hidup itu pilihan' jalan mana yg terbaik ?
seandainya saya bisa kembali kemasa lalu dan di beri pilihan jalan hidup, saya akan memilih jalan yg sama, menyelesaikannya lbh bijak n lbh cepat. jalan itu yg 'aman'.
tapi mungkin saya tipe memberontak. sesekali berontak. tentu krn tidak merasa nyaman.
lalu ketidakjujuran lainnya,
~ saya tidak suka bawang putih, demi kesehatan saya makan juga.
~ saya benci makan pepaya krn baunya, tp sedikit jeruk nipis membuat baunya hilang.
~ saya tidak ingin bertemu dengan si A tp saya utang budi sama dia.
~ saya tdk suka datang ke acara pernikahan, tp temen saya nantinya menikah semua.
~ saya tdk ingin berkencan dengan pria D tp krn dia ganteng yah boleh lha.
~ saya malas baca buku, tapi setiap hari baca 2 halaman
~ saya tdk suka selingkuh, tp saya selingkuh
~ saya sepertinya pengertian tp pendendam
~ saya gak suka musik trance tp pergi dugem
~ gak tahan bau rokok tp merokok itu nikmat
~ etc...
Apa ketidakjujuran menjadi Sah jika diikutin alasan yg tepat ? berbohong demi kebaikan gt...
Bersusah payah saya membangun hidup dari kejujuran. saya yakin hidup saya akan baik2 saja jika saya menjalaninya dengan baik dan jujur. Mengajak org lain untuk jujur, mencoba tidak menyakiti org lain dengan kebohongan. Tapi yg terparah adalah Saya justru tidak jujur terhadap diri sendiri.
Ini pesan untuk yg membaca, coba renungkan dan belajar dari kesalahan saya.
Saya mencintai pria A tapi menikah dengan pria B, krn Pengabdian. Buat saya cinta itu sangat pribadi dan simple. Cinta itu bisa tumbuh dengan siapa saja, cinta itu butuh proses. apa benar begitu ? yg aku tau adalah Cinta itu mengikat 2 org dalam 1 perasaan. rumit ternyata...
lalu bagaimana dengan 'Hidup itu pilihan' jalan mana yg terbaik ?
seandainya saya bisa kembali kemasa lalu dan di beri pilihan jalan hidup, saya akan memilih jalan yg sama, menyelesaikannya lbh bijak n lbh cepat. jalan itu yg 'aman'.
tapi mungkin saya tipe memberontak. sesekali berontak. tentu krn tidak merasa nyaman.
lalu ketidakjujuran lainnya,
~ saya tidak suka bawang putih, demi kesehatan saya makan juga.
~ saya benci makan pepaya krn baunya, tp sedikit jeruk nipis membuat baunya hilang.
~ saya tidak ingin bertemu dengan si A tp saya utang budi sama dia.
~ saya tdk suka datang ke acara pernikahan, tp temen saya nantinya menikah semua.
~ saya tdk ingin berkencan dengan pria D tp krn dia ganteng yah boleh lha.
~ saya malas baca buku, tapi setiap hari baca 2 halaman
~ saya tdk suka selingkuh, tp saya selingkuh
~ saya sepertinya pengertian tp pendendam
~ saya gak suka musik trance tp pergi dugem
~ gak tahan bau rokok tp merokok itu nikmat
~ etc...
Apa ketidakjujuran menjadi Sah jika diikutin alasan yg tepat ? berbohong demi kebaikan gt...
Sunday, 21 November 2010
Something to think about before you decide to marry someone
No. 1
You pick the wrong person because you expect her/him to change after you are married.
The classic mistake. Never marry potential. The Golden rule is, if you can't be happy with the person the way he or she is now, don't get married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, "you actually can expect people to change after their marriage....for the worst!!!!" So when it comes to the other person's spirituality, character, personal, hygiene, communication skills and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now.
My opinion : simple thing can be big thing in marriage life. careful...
No. 2
You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than character.
Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character keeps it burning. Beware of the "I'm in love" syndrome. "I'm in love" syndrome often means "I'm in lust" Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person characters?
Here are 4 characters traits to definitely check for :
Humility : Does this person believe that "doing the right this" is more important than personal comfort?
Do i want to be more like this person? Would i like my child to turn out like him or her?
Kindness: Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people?
How does she or he treat people he or she doesn't have to be nice to?
Does he or she volunteer work? give charity?
Responsibility : Can I depend on this person to do what he or she says he or she going to do?
Happiness : Does this person like himself? Does he or she enjoy life? is he or she emotionally stable?
Ask your self : Do i want to be more like this person? Do i want to have a child with this person?
Would i like my child to turn out like him or her?
No: 3.
You pick the wrong person because the man doesn’t understand what a woman needs most.
Men and women have unique emotional needs, and more often that not, it is the man who just doesn’t “get it”. The unique need of a woman is to be loved – to feel that she is the most important person in her husband’s life. The husband needs to give her consistent, quality attention.
Sexual intimacy is always on the woman’s terms. Men are goal-oriented, especially when it come this area. As a wise woman once pointed out, “men have two speeds: on and off.”Women are experience-oriented.
When a man is able to switch gears and become more experience-oriented, he will discover what makes his wife very happy. When the man forgets about his own needs and focuses on giving his wife pleasure, amazing things happen.
My opinion : women need to be loved, men need to be understanding… and a bit of loved too…
i meant, woman need 'hugs' more more than guy, or kisses... etc.
No: 4.
You choose the wrong person because you do not share a common life goals and priorities.
There are three basic ways we connect with another person:
Chemistry and compatibility
Share common interests
Share common life goal
Make sure you share the deeper level of connection that sharing life goals provide. After marriage, the two of you will either grow together or grow apart.
To avoid growing apart, you must figure out what you’re “living for,” while you’re single—and then find someone who has come to the same conclusion as you.
This is the true definition or a “soul mate.” A soul mate is a goal mate—two people who ultimately share the same understanding of life’s purpose and therefore share priorities, values and goals.
No: 5.
You choose the wrong person because you get involved sexually too quickly.
Sexual involvement before the commitment of marriage can be problem because it often precludes a fully honest exploration of important issues. Sexual involvement tends to cloud onus’s mind. And a clouded mind is not inclined to make good decision.
Of all the studies done on divorce, sexual incompatibility is never cited as a main factor. It is not necessary to take a “test drive” in order to find out if a couple is sexually compatible, you don’t have to worry about sexual compatibility. Of all the studies done on divorce, sexual incompatibility in never cited as a main reason why people divorce.
My opinion : True, mostly happen but hard to do.
No: 6.
You pick the wrong person because you do not have a deeper emotional connection with this person.
To evaluate whether you have a deeper emotional connection or not ask: “do I respect and admire this person?” this does not mean, “am I impressed by this person?” we are impressed by a Mercedes. We do not respect someone because they own a Mercedes. You should be impressed by qualities of creativity, loyalty, determination, etc.
Also ask: “do I trust this person?” this also means, “is he/she emotionally stable? Do I feel I can rely on him/her?
No: 7.
You pick the wrong person because you choose someone with whom you don’t feel emotionally safe.
Ask yourself the following questions: do I feel calm, peaceful and relaxed with this person? Can I fully be myself and express myself! With this person?
Dose this person make me feel good about myself? Do you have a really close friend who does make you feel this way? Make sure the person you marry makes you feel the same way!
Are you afraid of this person in any way? You should not feel you need to monitor what you say because you are afraid of how the other person will view it. If you’re afraid to express your feelings and opinions openly, there’s a problem with the relationship. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. Another aspect of feeling safe is that you don’t feel the other person is trying to control you.
Controlling behaviors are a sign of an abusive person. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. There’s big difference between “controlling” and “making suggestion”. A suggestion is made for your benefit; a control statement is made for their benefit.
My opinion : dangerous... really.
No 8:
You pick the wrong person because you don’t have put everyting on the table.
Anything that bothers you about the relationship must be brought up for discussion. Bringing up the uncomfortable stuff is the only way to evaluate how well the two of you communicate, negotiate, and work together. Over the course of a lifetime, difficulties will inevitably arise.
You need to know now, before making a commitment: can you resolve your differences and find compromises that work for both of you? Never be afraid to let the person know what bothers you. This is also a way for you to test how vulnerable you can be with this person. If you can’t be vulnerable, then you can’t be intimate. The two go hand in hand.
My opinion : hmm... better open minded...
No: 9.
You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to ascape from personal problems and unhappiness.
If you are unhappy and single, you’ll probably be unhappy and married, too. Marriage does not fix personal, psychological and emotional problems. If anything, marriage will exacerbate them. If you are not happy with yourself and your life, take responsibility to fix it now while you are single. You’ll feel better, and your future spouse will thank you.
No: 10.
You pick the wrong person because he/she is involved in a triangle.
To be “triangulated” means a person is emotionally dependent on someone or something else while trying to develop another relationship. A person who hasn’t separated from his or her parents is the classic example of triangulation.
People can also be triangulate with things as well, such as work, drugs, Internet, hobbies, sports or money. Be careful that you and! Your partner is free of triangles. The person caught in the triangle cannot be fully emotionality available to you. You will not be their number one priority. And that’s no basis for a marriage.
My opinion : to indonesian guy....^^ pls noticed...
You pick the wrong person because you expect her/him to change after you are married.
The classic mistake. Never marry potential. The Golden rule is, if you can't be happy with the person the way he or she is now, don't get married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, "you actually can expect people to change after their marriage....for the worst!!!!" So when it comes to the other person's spirituality, character, personal, hygiene, communication skills and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now.
My opinion : simple thing can be big thing in marriage life. careful...
No. 2
You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than character.
Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character keeps it burning. Beware of the "I'm in love" syndrome. "I'm in love" syndrome often means "I'm in lust" Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person characters?
Here are 4 characters traits to definitely check for :
Humility : Does this person believe that "doing the right this" is more important than personal comfort?
Do i want to be more like this person? Would i like my child to turn out like him or her?
Kindness: Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people?
How does she or he treat people he or she doesn't have to be nice to?
Does he or she volunteer work? give charity?
Responsibility : Can I depend on this person to do what he or she says he or she going to do?
Happiness : Does this person like himself? Does he or she enjoy life? is he or she emotionally stable?
Ask your self : Do i want to be more like this person? Do i want to have a child with this person?
Would i like my child to turn out like him or her?
No: 3.
You pick the wrong person because the man doesn’t understand what a woman needs most.
Men and women have unique emotional needs, and more often that not, it is the man who just doesn’t “get it”. The unique need of a woman is to be loved – to feel that she is the most important person in her husband’s life. The husband needs to give her consistent, quality attention.
Sexual intimacy is always on the woman’s terms. Men are goal-oriented, especially when it come this area. As a wise woman once pointed out, “men have two speeds: on and off.”Women are experience-oriented.
When a man is able to switch gears and become more experience-oriented, he will discover what makes his wife very happy. When the man forgets about his own needs and focuses on giving his wife pleasure, amazing things happen.
My opinion : women need to be loved, men need to be understanding… and a bit of loved too…
i meant, woman need 'hugs' more more than guy, or kisses... etc.
No: 4.
You choose the wrong person because you do not share a common life goals and priorities.
There are three basic ways we connect with another person:
Chemistry and compatibility
Share common interests
Share common life goal
Make sure you share the deeper level of connection that sharing life goals provide. After marriage, the two of you will either grow together or grow apart.
To avoid growing apart, you must figure out what you’re “living for,” while you’re single—and then find someone who has come to the same conclusion as you.
This is the true definition or a “soul mate.” A soul mate is a goal mate—two people who ultimately share the same understanding of life’s purpose and therefore share priorities, values and goals.
No: 5.
You choose the wrong person because you get involved sexually too quickly.
Sexual involvement before the commitment of marriage can be problem because it often precludes a fully honest exploration of important issues. Sexual involvement tends to cloud onus’s mind. And a clouded mind is not inclined to make good decision.
Of all the studies done on divorce, sexual incompatibility is never cited as a main factor. It is not necessary to take a “test drive” in order to find out if a couple is sexually compatible, you don’t have to worry about sexual compatibility. Of all the studies done on divorce, sexual incompatibility in never cited as a main reason why people divorce.
My opinion : True, mostly happen but hard to do.
No: 6.
You pick the wrong person because you do not have a deeper emotional connection with this person.
To evaluate whether you have a deeper emotional connection or not ask: “do I respect and admire this person?” this does not mean, “am I impressed by this person?” we are impressed by a Mercedes. We do not respect someone because they own a Mercedes. You should be impressed by qualities of creativity, loyalty, determination, etc.
Also ask: “do I trust this person?” this also means, “is he/she emotionally stable? Do I feel I can rely on him/her?
No: 7.
You pick the wrong person because you choose someone with whom you don’t feel emotionally safe.
Ask yourself the following questions: do I feel calm, peaceful and relaxed with this person? Can I fully be myself and express myself! With this person?
Dose this person make me feel good about myself? Do you have a really close friend who does make you feel this way? Make sure the person you marry makes you feel the same way!
Are you afraid of this person in any way? You should not feel you need to monitor what you say because you are afraid of how the other person will view it. If you’re afraid to express your feelings and opinions openly, there’s a problem with the relationship. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. Another aspect of feeling safe is that you don’t feel the other person is trying to control you.
Controlling behaviors are a sign of an abusive person. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. There’s big difference between “controlling” and “making suggestion”. A suggestion is made for your benefit; a control statement is made for their benefit.
My opinion : dangerous... really.
No 8:
You pick the wrong person because you don’t have put everyting on the table.
Anything that bothers you about the relationship must be brought up for discussion. Bringing up the uncomfortable stuff is the only way to evaluate how well the two of you communicate, negotiate, and work together. Over the course of a lifetime, difficulties will inevitably arise.
You need to know now, before making a commitment: can you resolve your differences and find compromises that work for both of you? Never be afraid to let the person know what bothers you. This is also a way for you to test how vulnerable you can be with this person. If you can’t be vulnerable, then you can’t be intimate. The two go hand in hand.
My opinion : hmm... better open minded...
No: 9.
You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to ascape from personal problems and unhappiness.
If you are unhappy and single, you’ll probably be unhappy and married, too. Marriage does not fix personal, psychological and emotional problems. If anything, marriage will exacerbate them. If you are not happy with yourself and your life, take responsibility to fix it now while you are single. You’ll feel better, and your future spouse will thank you.
No: 10.
You pick the wrong person because he/she is involved in a triangle.
To be “triangulated” means a person is emotionally dependent on someone or something else while trying to develop another relationship. A person who hasn’t separated from his or her parents is the classic example of triangulation.
People can also be triangulate with things as well, such as work, drugs, Internet, hobbies, sports or money. Be careful that you and! Your partner is free of triangles. The person caught in the triangle cannot be fully emotionality available to you. You will not be their number one priority. And that’s no basis for a marriage.
My opinion : to indonesian guy....^^ pls noticed...
Thursday, 21 October 2010
Homemade Chocolate
Chocolate Candy
* 3 cups sugar
* 3 cups milk
* 5 tablespoons cocoa
* 1 tablespoon butter
* 1 teaspoon vanilla
1. Combine the sugar, milk, and cocoa in a saucepan and bring it to the boil while stirring. Boil until the mixture reaches the soft ball stage at 234-240 degrees F.
2. Remove from heat and stir in the butter and vanilla until mixture is creamy. Pour onto a buttered tray and allow to cool. Cut into squares and store in an airtight container.
* 3 cups sugar
* 3 cups milk
* 5 tablespoons cocoa
* 1 tablespoon butter
* 1 teaspoon vanilla
1. Combine the sugar, milk, and cocoa in a saucepan and bring it to the boil while stirring. Boil until the mixture reaches the soft ball stage at 234-240 degrees F.
2. Remove from heat and stir in the butter and vanilla until mixture is creamy. Pour onto a buttered tray and allow to cool. Cut into squares and store in an airtight container.
Wednesday, 13 October 2010
The Indigo Children
What is an Indigo Child? and why do we call them Indigo?
First, the definition: an indigo child is one who displays a new and unusual set of psychological attributes and shows a pattern of behavior generally undocumented before. This pattern has common unique factors that suggest that those who interact with them ( parents, in particular ) change their treatment and upbringing of them in order to achieve balance. To ignore these new pattern is to potentially create imbalance and frustration in the mind of this precious new life. The subject of this chapter is to identify, qualify and validate the attributes of an Indigo child.
Here are ten of the most common traits of Indigo Children :
1. They come into the world with a feeling of Royalty ( and often act like it )
2. They have a feeling of 'deserving to be here' and are surprised when others dont share that.
3. Self-worth is not a big issue. They often tell the parents 'who they are'
4. They have difficulty with absolute authority ( authority without explanation or choice )
5. They simply will not do certain things; for example, waiting in line is difficult for them.
6. They get frustrated with systems that are ritual-oriented and dont require creative thought.
7. They often see better ways of doing things, both at home and in school, which makes them seem like 'system buster' ( nonconforming to any system)
8. They seem antisocial unless they are with their own kind. if there are no others of like consciousness around them, they ofern turn inward, feeling like no other human understands them. School is often extremely difficult for them socially.
9. They will not respond to guilt discipline.
10. They are not shy in letting you know what they need.
Lee Carroll & Jan Tober
First, the definition: an indigo child is one who displays a new and unusual set of psychological attributes and shows a pattern of behavior generally undocumented before. This pattern has common unique factors that suggest that those who interact with them ( parents, in particular ) change their treatment and upbringing of them in order to achieve balance. To ignore these new pattern is to potentially create imbalance and frustration in the mind of this precious new life. The subject of this chapter is to identify, qualify and validate the attributes of an Indigo child.
Here are ten of the most common traits of Indigo Children :
1. They come into the world with a feeling of Royalty ( and often act like it )
2. They have a feeling of 'deserving to be here' and are surprised when others dont share that.
3. Self-worth is not a big issue. They often tell the parents 'who they are'
4. They have difficulty with absolute authority ( authority without explanation or choice )
5. They simply will not do certain things; for example, waiting in line is difficult for them.
6. They get frustrated with systems that are ritual-oriented and dont require creative thought.
7. They often see better ways of doing things, both at home and in school, which makes them seem like 'system buster' ( nonconforming to any system)
8. They seem antisocial unless they are with their own kind. if there are no others of like consciousness around them, they ofern turn inward, feeling like no other human understands them. School is often extremely difficult for them socially.
9. They will not respond to guilt discipline.
10. They are not shy in letting you know what they need.
Lee Carroll & Jan Tober
Wednesday, 29 September 2010
Pulau Menjangan - Wall Dive
Kami menginap di Lovina, sebelah utara pulau bali yang terkenal dengan pantai lumba-lumbanya. Dari situ kami masih harus melanjutkan perjalanan ke arah barat. akhirnya sampailah kami di sebuah dermaga kecil dan beberapa kapal nelayan sudah menunggu pada diver. Kurang lebih 45 menit perjalanan kapal, kami menikmati pemandangan yang begitu indah dan pantai yang bersih. Luar biasa... seperti private beach. ^^
setelah semuanya siap, kali ini aku melakukan rol dari kapal dan masuk ke air. dan segera kami turun. Setelah menyelam beberapa saat, terjadi sedikit masalah, fin sebelah kanan saya lepas. wah, sempat panik... karena kami sudah menyelam cukup dalam dan tidak boleh langsung naik. selain berbahaya karena tekanan air, aku juga bisa celaka kalau sampai ada kapal yang lewat. Akhirnya temen dive ku yang sudah expert naik ke atas untuk mengambil.
Dan kami bisa melanjutkan menyelam. kami menyelam di patahan dinding laut. seperti jurang di dalam laut. Dinding jurang tersebut penuh karang yang beraneka bentuk dan warna. kami ini aku harus rajin-rajin melihat petunjuk tekanan dan udara.
Gak berasa aku menyelam di kedalaman 18-20m. arusnya-pun agak deras, berkali-kali aku terseret arus dan berenang tapi gak maju. aku dikawal ketat temanku dan berkali-kali menerima peringatan untuk tidak berenang turun.pada saat sedang asik melihat-lihat karang, tak sadar di depanku muncul belut hitam besar yang muncul dari dalam gua kecil. Sempat menelan air dan panik :( tapi aku bisa relax lagi. dan sudah waktunya kami naik ke kapal untuk beristirahat.
Kapal kami merapat dengan 3 kapal nelayan lainnya. Para diver dari berbagai negara berkumpul. Kebanyakan dari german, mereka juga masih di level 'Open water'. Setelah selesai makan siang di kapal, saya dan teman dive saya, loncat dari kapal untuk berenang berkeliling karena airnya bersih, bening, dasar laut-pun terlihat. Kira-kira 15 menit berenang, instruktur kamipun memanggil, dia menurunkan peralatan dive kami dan kami siap untuk sesi dive berikutnya. kami menyelam di sisi lain dari P menjangan. Masih sama pemandanganan lautnya. lebih relax... kamipun tak sengaja melihat penyu berenang.hanya 20 menit menyelam, kami-pun mengakhiri. naik ke kapal dan kembali ke P bali.
Setelah selesai mandi, kami memesan beberapa macam makanan, lapar sekali.... sembari makan kami mengisi log book.
log book merupakan buku yang menyimpan data penyelaman kami. seperti kedalaman, waktu penyelaman, tempat, dll.
Tuesday, 28 September 2010
Padang Bay, Bali - Coral Dive
Padang Bay tempat dive yang terkenal dengan keindahan coral dan ikan Hiu-nya. OK sekali seumur hidup, cukup. haha... takut juga tapi aku paksakan diriku karena untuk hal ini sepertinya gak ada kesempatan kedua. Pagi itu jam 9 aku sudah berada diatas kapal memasang peralatan dive. Segera kami satu persatu turun ke air. Mulai turun di kedalaman 4M. Setelah kami semua memberi kode OK, kami mulai berenang maju dan lebih dalam.
Coral dimana-mana. berwarna warni, bentuknya indah dan banyak ikan. Aku berasa seperti berada didalam Aquarium yang sangat indah. terdapat berbagai macam tipe bintang laut, kerang-kerang, ikan nemo ( clown fish ), lion fish dan ikan-ikan lain yang aku tidak tau namanya. Dive kl ini benar-benar relax. Tidak ada hal yang menegangkan. 40 menit di dalam air, sudah waktunya kami naik untuk beristirahat.
20 menit kami beristirahat di kapal sambil menikmati pemandangan laut, memberi makan ikan dengan rempah roti sambil ngobrol dengan nelayan pemilik kapal. Kembali kami berada di air dan memasang peralatan selam kami dengan cepat. lalu turun kebawah lurus sampai kedalaman 4m. setelah semua OK, kami lanjut berenang ke lokasi coral yang lebih indah.
Masih di lokasi yang berdekatan, aku mendapati terdapat beberapa perbedaan coral. Ketika sedang asik berenang tiba-tiba teman dive-ku memegang tanganku menggandengku untuk berenang bersama. Ternyata, dia melihat ada ikan hiu. dia mangajakku berenang menjauh dan agak naik. Perasaanku tidak tenang dan aku menghabiskan banyak udara. hanya 30 menit di dasar laut, kami segera naik.Hari berikutnya kami melakukan penyelaman di Pulau Menjangan.
Tulamben, Bali - Wreck Dive
Aku mengambil paket dive dengan tujuan 3 tempat yang berbeda, yaitu Tulamben, Padang Bay dan Pulau Menjangan.
Paketnya terbilang cukup murah sekitar 2,5jt sudah termasuk transport, hotel, makan siang dan sewa peralatan dive berikut instrukturnya. Perjalanan pertama menuju Tulamben, tempat dive yang sudah terkenal dengan "Wreck dive". Kapal cargo USS Liberty yang sengaja di tenggelamkan pada tahun 1963. Dive di mulai dari pantai/shore, berjalan dan mulai berenang ke arah bangkai kapal 30 derajat menurut kompas yang saya pakai. Berenang miring melawan ombak, terus turun dan turun perlahan-lahan. tidak lupa membuang udara dari telinga. Bersama kami banyak juga diver-diver lain. Sampai akhirnya mulai terlihat benda hitam besar dikejauhan dan WOW besar sekali kapalnya. Seperti di film-film mencari harta karun dan bertemu mayat, haha... :p
deg-deg an abis, senang bercampur gugup. terus berenang mengelilingi bangkai kapal. berlatih mengatur irama berenang, cara berhenti dan cara berenang belok. Beberapa kali aku masih sering berenang terlalu rendah sehingga fin-ku mengenai karang. Karena begitu kita diam berhenti bergerak, badan kita akan semakin turun ke dasar laut. Sedangkan aku terlalu asik mengamati coral, ikan dan beberapa 'keajaiban' laut. Tiba-tiba aku merasa sangat beruntung bisa menikmati semua keindahan ini.Jika Anda pernah menonton film AVATAR 3D, keindahan tanaman yang ada di film itu sama seperti keindahan coral dibawah laut. Sangat indah... Sangat memukau...
Setelah 40 menit di dalam laut, akhirnya instruktur kami memberi kode untuk mengakhiri penyelaman. Kami berenang kembali ke pantai. Begitu sampai di pantai, aku gak kuat lagi berdiri, ditambah lagi hantaman ombak dan beratnya tabung. Capek sekali, lapar... 5 menit menunggu, Nasi goreng kami matang : )
30 menit kami beristirahat sudah cukup rasanya dan siap untuk penyelaman berikutnya, masih ditempat yang sama. Ternyata tenaga-ku menipis. Berasa sekali kaki dan pinggang ku pegal. berat sekali rasanya berenang tapi pemandangan indah menunggu. Pelan-pelan tapi pasti akhirnya terlihat juga. Kali ini kami berenang berlawanan arah dengan penyelaman kami yang pertama. Kami menyelam masuk ke dalam kapal. sangat menegangkan karena gelap. tak lupa kami sibuk foto-foto. Setelah 25 menit berkeliling, instruktur mengajak kami untuk mengakhiri penyelaman. Penyelaman kedua lebih singkat karena dalam darah kami sudah mulai menumpuk nitrogen dari sejak penyelaman pertama. benar-benar lelah, segera aku mandi, minum teh manis hangat, meminum tolak angin dan makan beberapa biskuit lemon. Segera kami naik mobil melanjutkan perjalanan ke Padang Bay dan menginap disana. Aku tidur di sepanjang jalan : )
Tujuan kami berikutnya, Padang Bay tempat dive yang terkenal dengan keindahan coralnya dan ikan Hiu-nya ^^
Monday, 27 September 2010
my DIVE
Excited ! ini petualangan yang sebenarnya. ^^
Gak tau kenapa aku selalu tertarik dengan kegiatan yang menurut orang lain berbahaya. temen-temenku bilang gini : "udah deh loe jangan aneh-aneh ! " ( aku mendengarnya seperti suatu dukungan, haha... )
kegiatan yang memacu adrenalin hanya untuk sekedar mengukur kemampuan dan keberanian.
SCUBA is an acronym which stands for Self Contained Underwater Breathing Aparatus. ( gak penting deh.. : ) Aku pikir belajarnya memakan waktu lama, bosenin, susah, kemungkinan gagal besar ( krn aku ada asma, tp sejak sering berenang n diving asma-nya hilang ).
ternyata... kursusnya cuman 3 hari. mulai dari jam 8 pagi sampai jam 6 sore. Termasuk teori dan praktek.
Aku ambil license PADI ( Professional Association of Diving Instructors ). ada beberapa license seh, cuman ini yang paling terkenal dan banyak diterima. Ujian teorinya-pun boleh nyontek. tapi tetep aja dari 100 soal salah 9, haha.... gara-gara ngantuk berat. Yang anehnya lagi bule ce yang duduk disebelah gw malah nyontek gw padahal buku panduannya dalam bahasa inggris.
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Hari pertama jam 8 pagi, dikasih buku panduan dari instruktur ( PADI ) setebal 3cm, juga video panduan. Mulai lembar demi lembar dilahap. Mulai dari duduk tegak sampai turun... turun... dan posisi kepala di meja ( baca ketiduran ) haha... akhirnya makan siang, Nasi goreng dan teh manis hangat... mantab.setelah makan siang, lanjut lagi teorinya. T.T .Teorinya seh seputar teori fisika, gak sulit seperti pelajaran SMP seperti anomali air... akhirnya jam 5an selesai.
Hari kedua, jam 8 pagi : ) dimulai dengan teori lagi tapi kali ini tak merasa jenuh karena setelah makan siang langsung praktek di kolam renang. dan benar saja, waktu berjalan cepat dan kita sudah berada di pinggir kolam renang mendengarkan instruktur menerangkan tentang macam-macam peralatan dive, cara pemasangan, cara penggunaan dan perawatan.
Tabung udara yang berat itu sudah terpasang dipunggung, beratnya ampun, 13kg ! langsung saja masuk ke kolam untuk mengurangi beban beratnya. Ternyata yang tersulit adalah bernafas dengan mulut dalam waktu lama. setelah 1 jam berlatih, akhirnya hidungku berdarah juga. Sempat panik, bukan panik karena hidung berdarah tapi panik takut gak lulus. hehe...
Hari ketiga, jam 8 pagi persiapan di pantai segera setelah selesai kami naik ke kapal nelayan menuju tengah laut. Mencapai lokasi yang ditentukan kami segera turun ke laut, lalu memasang peralatan selam di dalam air. Kita dilatih untuk cepat dan sigap memasang peralatan di dalam air. Karena aku terlalu kecil dan kurus, aku harus memakai pemberat sebesar 6kg. Deg-deg an abis, penasaran dan sedikit takut. akhirnya mulailah turun pelan-pelan mengikuti instruksi. telinga mulai terasa sakit pada kedalaman 3m, segera meniup udara dikeluarkan lewat telinga, berkali-kali dan jangan turun lebih dalam. Setelah beberapa saat akhirnya hilang juga sakitnya.
Relax berlutut di pasir, di dasar laut dan mulai bisa menikmati pemandangan bawah laut. Ternyata di dalam banyak sekali para calon diver. senangnya... akhirnya bisa lebih relax. Sempat terhenti lagi sebentar karena telingaku sakit sekali. Kami juga diajari prosedur keselamatan dan cara menyelamatkan diver lain.Sekitar jam 4, semuanya selesai dan kami diminta untuk mengisi data diri juga menyerahkan foto. Kami semua lulus : )
Tanpa pikir panjang, aku langsung mengambil paket dive bersama seorang teman yang sudah expert.
Baca postingan di blog ini berikutnya : )
Saturday, 25 September 2010
Things happens for a reason
there's a season for everything... some people stay, some people meant to be our past....
so just enjoy every second, never regrets n never waste it.... ^^
what ever you do, as long as you know, you have given your best, you won't have regrets...
honesty is gold... more precious than anything else in the whole world...
if loving the person that we love so much was so wrong, then the only thing that we can do is just love that person while we can with all the best that we have and give the best that we could give, so we won't have any regrets....at least people can see it, and one day you can say proudly," i felt that kind of love once" coz not every one can feel it and for those people, who put our love to an end, they will know eventually, how big is our love and they will regret it one day and understand love better....just what we can do best....love him/her with all our heart....
Several important people in my life,
Mom - u r the best ever !
Dad - miss u so much, dad...
Kayla - my heart
My sister Amy - good luck for u, sis... n ur family.
My bro Arno - care abt u so much
Miko - Crab ! haha... bad n good in u. The best cousin, always ruin my day with ur spoil action.
Mr. Daryono - my best physics teacher. Thanks for ur support, sir.
never forget how we argued abt physics, phenomenon, life, jokes, etc.
Robin - my shadow, dark shape. haha...
ur word is just a word but meaningful for me, a sensitive n very talk active guy. if i could love u once. u r living far far away from me.
Danny - i learn a lot from u. once u destroy me...
Kiem - friendship forever !
.................
so just enjoy every second, never regrets n never waste it.... ^^
what ever you do, as long as you know, you have given your best, you won't have regrets...
honesty is gold... more precious than anything else in the whole world...
if loving the person that we love so much was so wrong, then the only thing that we can do is just love that person while we can with all the best that we have and give the best that we could give, so we won't have any regrets....at least people can see it, and one day you can say proudly," i felt that kind of love once" coz not every one can feel it and for those people, who put our love to an end, they will know eventually, how big is our love and they will regret it one day and understand love better....just what we can do best....love him/her with all our heart....
Several important people in my life,
Mom - u r the best ever !
Dad - miss u so much, dad...
Kayla - my heart
My sister Amy - good luck for u, sis... n ur family.
My bro Arno - care abt u so much
Miko - Crab ! haha... bad n good in u. The best cousin, always ruin my day with ur spoil action.
Mr. Daryono - my best physics teacher. Thanks for ur support, sir.
never forget how we argued abt physics, phenomenon, life, jokes, etc.
Robin - my shadow, dark shape. haha...
ur word is just a word but meaningful for me, a sensitive n very talk active guy. if i could love u once. u r living far far away from me.
Danny - i learn a lot from u. once u destroy me...
Kiem - friendship forever !
.................
missing... ( this is not a confession of a lonely heart... : )
I miss hugging someone...
I miss giving small kisses to someone...
I miss lazing around in the house with someone
I miss cuddling with someone...
I miss hearing sweet little words from someone...
I miss giving love to someone and recieving love...
I miss being pampered and pampering someone....
I miss giving all the attention that i could give as a woman...
I miss cooking breakfast for someone....
I miss coming home to someone...
I miss waking up in the morning and have someone to say good morning too...
I miss having a late night bed talking with someone...
I miss saying how good someone is...
I miss saying how handsome he is...
I miss saying i miss him....
I miss having a warm feeling when someone hug me when I am down...
I miss walking with someone that makes me look good as much as he feels that he looks and feel good walking with me....
I miss being the real whole woman....
I miss being with someone....
I want to share my life with someone...
I want to love, i want to hug, i want to kiss....
I miss being jelous...
I miss being upset because someone is late...
I miss being nervous for a date...
I miss dressing up for someone...
I miss giving suprises and get suprises from someone...
I miss butterflies in my stomach....
I miss fighting for my feeling towards someone....
I miss smiling in the morning because feeling love and loving someone....
I miss buying my love one gifts...
I miss celebrating special day with someone...
I miss having someone in my life....
I miss having someone who can love me and see me as who i am....
loving me even i have flaws....
who can see me with that look....and i can look the sameway too....
i miss it so much.....
I miss giving small kisses to someone...
I miss lazing around in the house with someone
I miss cuddling with someone...
I miss hearing sweet little words from someone...
I miss giving love to someone and recieving love...
I miss being pampered and pampering someone....
I miss giving all the attention that i could give as a woman...
I miss cooking breakfast for someone....
I miss coming home to someone...
I miss waking up in the morning and have someone to say good morning too...
I miss having a late night bed talking with someone...
I miss saying how good someone is...
I miss saying how handsome he is...
I miss saying i miss him....
I miss having a warm feeling when someone hug me when I am down...
I miss walking with someone that makes me look good as much as he feels that he looks and feel good walking with me....
I miss being the real whole woman....
I miss being with someone....
I want to share my life with someone...
I want to love, i want to hug, i want to kiss....
I miss being jelous...
I miss being upset because someone is late...
I miss being nervous for a date...
I miss dressing up for someone...
I miss giving suprises and get suprises from someone...
I miss butterflies in my stomach....
I miss fighting for my feeling towards someone....
I miss smiling in the morning because feeling love and loving someone....
I miss buying my love one gifts...
I miss celebrating special day with someone...
I miss having someone in my life....
I miss having someone who can love me and see me as who i am....
loving me even i have flaws....
who can see me with that look....and i can look the sameway too....
i miss it so much.....
Sunday, 19 September 2010
KORSASE dari kain Perca
Beragam bentuk Korsase dengan desain yang bervariasi namun sebenarnya pada dasarnya memiliki bentuk dan cara yang sama, namun bagaimana kita dapat berkreasi merangkai potongan kain perca tersebut sehingga dapat menghasilkan bentuk korsase yang terlihat anggun dan mewah. Karena pada dasarnya, korsase merupakan pemanis tampilan busana di acara resmi seperti pernikahan.
Jadi, tidak salah bila Anda memilih buku ini sebagai buku referensi untuk berkreasi, karena Anda akan dengan mudah mempraktekkan cara pembuatan korsase tersebut. Berkreasilah untuk berani memadupadankan warna kain pada korsase, sehingga hasil kreasi Anda akan nampak lebih eksklusif dan memiliki nilai jual yang tinggi.
Korsase, merupakan asesoris busana yang berbentuk bunga, biasanya dibuat dari rangkaian bunga segar. Seiring dengan perkembangan modeKorsasedi buat dari bunga tiruan atau sintetis biasa berbahan kain, plastik maupun kertas.Korsase memiliki beragam bentuk. Ada yang mungil seperti bros yang cukup disematkan pada gaun, blazer ataupun kemeja, ada juga yg berukuran lebih besar untuk di tambahkan pada ikat pinggang, kalung, gelang dan juga bandana.
Sedikit tentang penulis...
Penulis dengan nama lengkap Angela Maria Laniarti Hendrani atau lebih dikenal dengan nama Lanny Dharmawan memiliki 2 orang putri dan 1 orang putra. Penulis yang memiliki hobi di dunia keterampilan ini juga senang mendengarkan musik dan membaca. Hobi keterampilannya mulai telihat setelah lulus dari bangku sekolah menengah atas kira-kira tahun 1965 hingga sekarang telah mmenghasilkan berbagai kreasi yang tak terhitung jumlahnya.
Berbagai kreasi mulai dari membuat tas rafia, sulam pita, bunga-bunga tangkai, asesoris dari manik-manik, menjahit hingga membuat bros. Penulis juga mengajar membuat bros dan slam pita di sebuah sekolah Mode di semarang. dan juga beberapa kali ikut memeriahkan Inacraft. Tak heran berbagai kreasinya seperti korsase ini acapkali menjadi langganan designer-desainer terkemuka untuk di jadikan pemanis rancangan busananya.
Saturday, 18 September 2010
my Jelly Candy
Berikut resep jelly candy yg sudah berkali-kali saya buat. Bahan-bahannya cukup mudah di dapat di toko yg menjual bahan kue dan memasaknya-pun tidak memakan waktu cukup lama. Tapi Anda harus mempunyai termometer masak yang suhunya bisa mencapai 200 derajat celcius.
Bahan A:
100 gr gelatin
1 gr pengering/cream of tar tar.
200 cc air panas
Bahan B :
150 glukosa
600 gula pasir
160 cc air
- campur bahan B dimasak sampai 120 Celcius, lalu masukkan bahan A
- tambah 10 gr citrun, esen/perasa & pewarna secukupnya.
- cetak dalam loyang ukuran sedang, sehangga tinggi jelly kurang lebih 1 cm.
- tunggu agak dingin lalu simpan dalam lemari es selama 2 hari.
- setelah 2 hari keluarkan jelly dari cetakan loyang, lalu gunting kotak2 kecil.
- lumuri dengan gula halus agar tidak saling menempel.
Selamat mencoba ^^
Friday, 17 September 2010
my Glass Painting
Masih di tahun yang sama 2001, bulan agustus. Mamaku tercinta yg seorang seniman ^^ memperkenalkan aku pada temannya. Ibu La Lita Jo, wanita cantik berdarah menado yang sangat terampil melukis diatas kaca. Mereka melakukan barter, mamaku mengajarkan 'korsase' sebaliknya tante Lita mengajarkan aku glass painting.
Bahan-bahan yang dipakai ; kaca datar, botol bekas, cat khusus kaca ( transparant lebih indah ), relief tube ( berbagai warna seperti : emas, tembaga, silver, putih, hitam & transparant ), tusuk gigi, wash bensin dan tissue.
Awalnya aku diberi buku pola gambar stain glass/kaca patri. lalu dengan relief tube aku mulai menggambar mengikuti pola garis yang ada. Ternyata sulit sekali. haha... setiap 30 menit aku harus me-relax-kan tangan n jari jemariku. terlihat sangat gampang, tapi tekanan pada tube tidak stabil sehingga garis yang aku buat tebal tipis. Juga diperlukan pola nafas yang teratur.
sampai malam aku terus mencoba supaya aku tidak membuang-buang waktu kursus. dan akhirnya jari-jariku terbiasa.
Hari berikutnya mulai dengan pemberian warna. Tusuk gigi sudah di tangan dan mencelupkan ke dalam botol cat. tiba-tiba : " bukan begitu, ran... kamu hanya perlu mencelupkan sedikt saja ujung tusuk giginya " ( ooops... ) ambil tusuk gigi baru deh.. lalu mulai mewarnai dari bidang gambar yg kecil ke yg lebih besar... harus cepat, rapi dan rata. Karya pertamaku sangat mengecewakan. sayangnya lupa difoto.
Hari ke 3, mulai melukis dibotol, wah bidang rata aja gak rapi udah disuruh pindah ke bidang melengkung. ternyata yg aku takutkan terbukti, licin sehingga jauh dari pola. lagi-lagi hasilnya mengecewakan.
Hari ke 4, masih sama tapi lebih baik, lebih relax. mulai bisa menikmati indahnya melukis di botol.
Hari ke 5, hari terakhir, tante Lita datang dengan membawa banyak contoh hasil lukisan botol miliknya. Luar biasa. dia melukis motof batik dan banyak ornamen. sangan detail dengan berbagai warna dan bentuk. benar-benar tak terlintas di kepalaku bagai mana bisa membuat sedetail ini.
Dan beberapa hari setelah kursus selesai, aku mulai berburu botol-botol bekas di daerah belakang pasar Atom, Surabaya.
Aku dapat beberapa botol bekas parfume dan minuman. Mereka jual mulai dari harga 500 sampai 3000 rupiah.
Di jakarta, aku mulai mencari informasi mengenal forum Glass painting, ternyata nihil. Aku mulai membeli beberapa buku Enameling untuk memperkaya ide. Juga aku mulai megumpulkan berbagai macan warna cat, relief tube dan kuas berukuran 0000.
Disela-sela tugas kuliah, aku menyempatkan melukis, untuk terus melatih jari dan nafasku. beberapa lukisan sudah aku hasilkan. Tahun 2003 aku mencoba ikut pameran Inacraft yang setiap tahun-nya diselenggarakan dipertengahan bulan april.
Walau aku merugi, tapi banyak orang yang mengagumi dan membeli beberapa hasil karyaku. Aku puas.
Setiap tahun aku mencoba membuat beberapa karya. Tapi sekarang aku punya bisnis baru, mudah-mudahan aku masih punya kerinduan terhadap hobby ku yang satu ini, Glass Painting.
Bahan-bahan yang dipakai ; kaca datar, botol bekas, cat khusus kaca ( transparant lebih indah ), relief tube ( berbagai warna seperti : emas, tembaga, silver, putih, hitam & transparant ), tusuk gigi, wash bensin dan tissue.
Awalnya aku diberi buku pola gambar stain glass/kaca patri. lalu dengan relief tube aku mulai menggambar mengikuti pola garis yang ada. Ternyata sulit sekali. haha... setiap 30 menit aku harus me-relax-kan tangan n jari jemariku. terlihat sangat gampang, tapi tekanan pada tube tidak stabil sehingga garis yang aku buat tebal tipis. Juga diperlukan pola nafas yang teratur. sampai malam aku terus mencoba supaya aku tidak membuang-buang waktu kursus. dan akhirnya jari-jariku terbiasa.
Hari berikutnya mulai dengan pemberian warna. Tusuk gigi sudah di tangan dan mencelupkan ke dalam botol cat. tiba-tiba : " bukan begitu, ran... kamu hanya perlu mencelupkan sedikt saja ujung tusuk giginya " ( ooops... ) ambil tusuk gigi baru deh.. lalu mulai mewarnai dari bidang gambar yg kecil ke yg lebih besar... harus cepat, rapi dan rata. Karya pertamaku sangat mengecewakan. sayangnya lupa difoto.
Hari ke 3, mulai melukis dibotol, wah bidang rata aja gak rapi udah disuruh pindah ke bidang melengkung. ternyata yg aku takutkan terbukti, licin sehingga jauh dari pola. lagi-lagi hasilnya mengecewakan.
Hari ke 4, masih sama tapi lebih baik, lebih relax. mulai bisa menikmati indahnya melukis di botol.
Hari ke 5, hari terakhir, tante Lita datang dengan membawa banyak contoh hasil lukisan botol miliknya. Luar biasa. dia melukis motof batik dan banyak ornamen. sangan detail dengan berbagai warna dan bentuk. benar-benar tak terlintas di kepalaku bagai mana bisa membuat sedetail ini.
Dan beberapa hari setelah kursus selesai, aku mulai berburu botol-botol bekas di daerah belakang pasar Atom, Surabaya.Aku dapat beberapa botol bekas parfume dan minuman. Mereka jual mulai dari harga 500 sampai 3000 rupiah.
Di jakarta, aku mulai mencari informasi mengenal forum Glass painting, ternyata nihil. Aku mulai membeli beberapa buku Enameling untuk memperkaya ide. Juga aku mulai megumpulkan berbagai macan warna cat, relief tube dan kuas berukuran 0000.
Disela-sela tugas kuliah, aku menyempatkan melukis, untuk terus melatih jari dan nafasku. beberapa lukisan sudah aku hasilkan. Tahun 2003 aku mencoba ikut pameran Inacraft yang setiap tahun-nya diselenggarakan dipertengahan bulan april.
Walau aku merugi, tapi banyak orang yang mengagumi dan membeli beberapa hasil karyaku. Aku puas.
Setiap tahun aku mencoba membuat beberapa karya. Tapi sekarang aku punya bisnis baru, mudah-mudahan aku masih punya kerinduan terhadap hobby ku yang satu ini, Glass Painting.
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